Like everyone else, children sometimes need to save face when they make a mistake or don’t behave well. Be sensitive to children’s needs in these situations. Say things like:
Even though children can be forced to behave well through fear of punishment or pain, these feelings do not encourage children to self-disciplined in the long term.
• Avoid going over and over mistakes and shortcomings
• Don’t make children feel silly
• Don’t tease children about their faults
• Tell children how pleased you are when they get it right
• And tell them often that you love them
Disapprove of the behaviour – not the child It is OK to let children know when you disapprove of their behaviour. Approval and disapproval are compelling tools for shaping children’s behaviour. Children must understand, however, that it is the behaviour – not them – that you don’t like. There is a big difference. Rather than...